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Your Baby Week Twenty


Updated June 09, 2014

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Sibling Rivalry
Even siblings that seem sweet most of the time will likely have some rivalry issues.

Even siblings that seem sweet most of the time will likely have some rivalry issues.

Photo © Debi Bishop

If you have older children, you may have had a difficult week or two once you had your new baby.

Depending on their ages, this probably included some extra whining and crying, regression in development (wetting the bed, refusing to use the potty, daytime wetting accidents, etc.), and lots of jealousy.

Preparing your kids for the new baby likely helped you prevent and decrease any feelings of sibling rivalry -- at least in those first few months.

Unfortunately, now that your baby is awake more often during the day, she may be taking up more of your time, which can lead to even more problems with her siblings. That makes it even more important to take the time to help your other kids adjust to being older brothers or sisters, including:

  • having your kids help in age appropriate ways, such as holding the baby, getting diapers, and putting clothes away, etc.
  • continuing to be prepared for changes and regression in your child's behavior and development, such as having more temper tantrums or having some accidents when he was just potty trained
  • encouraging friends and family to spend time with your other kids when they offer to help with the baby, or letting them help with the baby so that you have more time for your other children
  • sticking to your usual routines as much as possible, including mealtimes, naps, and bedtimes
  • setting aside special one-on-one time as often as possible with each older sibling, even if it is just 5 or 10 minutes each day

Remember that it is still important to supervise your other children, especially toddlers and preschool-age children, when they hold or play with their little brother or sister.

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